Sunday, 24 January 2016

New Beginnings....taking time off


And again, I waited over a month between posts....last year for me was EVENTFUL and I have to say it greatly affected how frequent I wrote posts. But anyway Happy New Year guys! And I pray 2016 brings much more for you than you ever desired.

So this post is 2-fold; first, and some of you already know this, I became a mom on the 16th of December, when after a short 8 hours of labour and intense contractions I pushed out a beautiful being we named Leandre! Yeah, the better part of 2015 was spent being pregnant - I told you it was an eventful year didn't I? Lol.
 So yeah I am a mom and it's just an amazing experience.... I am just getting out of the first month of "momming" and yes I have experienced the sleepless nights and sore nipples :-), but also experienced the gosh-this-is-my-son! loving moment when you just stare at this little being for minutes and you just feel like you are floating...
Blogging has been such an enjoyable hobby for me these past three years, particularly 2013 when I started and then 2014; I felt so connected to my readers, and  it was such fun sharing stuff with you. There is something very rewarding and satisfying about sharing knowledge and this blog made me realize that. I also grew so much in the past three years and learned so much, made new friends, made new mistakes, learned more lessons and today I just feel blessed.

I feel like as I have entered into a totally new phase in my life- that is, being a newly-wed, being a new mom, and being a new resident in another country and continent, I would need to channel a lot of energy into adjusting to this, and I am most certain my readers would see even less posts compared to the first two years. I hate to do things half-assedly so I thought I would just have to take a break from the blog for a while- hopefully not for too long.

So I am taking time off Fola's Oasis and I will still miss blogging so much, but here's some advice I want to leave behind- you know, a very philosophical end to this post would be appropriate right?

1. Don't get tired of doing the right thing- in your job, relationships, whatever. No one is perfect, but we can do the right thing, improve on ourselves, and it will all pay off someday soon.

2.  Expect weird criticism from people. People will have whatever perception they decide to have of you. Just don't let it get to you so much. Weeks ago a friend of mine was like "Oh you are secretive Fola". And I'm thinking OK I only talk to this person on the phone maybe once in 2 am I secretive though? On the contrary I have even been trying to curb how much info I give people lately! Then I realized people just have to have something to tag you with- they just have to, whether it makes sense or not.

3. Be happy for others success. Honestly this one is MAJOR. I feel whenever that feeling of jealousy sets in, everyone can recognize it, and that is when people need to fight it as hard as possible. The happiest and most blessed people I know are those who have genuine interest in other people's success.

4. Trust God. It's that simple. He knows when you have really decided to let go and just trust Him. And that's when things turn around. I made this decision late 2014, and a few more times last year, and I did not regret that decision to just trust Him fully and relax.

So guys, again Happy New Year and I will be back!

Oh and here's a lovely video by Danny Gokey I find inspiring....heard it on the radio and Shazam'd it...hope you like it.

Thursday, 3 December 2015

Hair Crush Features: Tonkabelle

If I tell you for how long I have been on Tonkabelle's "neck" trying to get her to send in her photos for a Hair Crush feature, you would be shocked! I have always loved her hair since when I stumbled on her blog back in 2012 I think, and I have even tried one of her signature big buns when my hair was still relaxed. Wura has relaxed hair and I find that it's getting more difficult to get hold of ladies with relaxed hair that's long and healthy nowadays.
So here is the feature I have long waited for and I hope you learn a thing or two!

Please introduce yourself! What do you do?

My name is Tonkabelle and I believe that everyone regardless of genetics, race and other factors can achieve long and healthy hair, which will at least be the best version of their own hair possible. I explain how to achieve long and healthy hair on my blog at I also sell hair products under the product line - Wura’s Secret which I make myself; these products encourage hair health and stimulate hair growth.

Are you fully relaxed or texlaxed? How long do you stretch your relaxers for?

I am fully relaxed however I am transitioning to texlaxed hair. I typically stretch my relaxers between 12 -14 weeks.

What is your current hair length?

My current hair length is grazing APL as I am growing my hair out after it was cut by a scissor happy stylist to SL about 3 months ago. It took me about 3 months to get to this length so I am very happy about that. I can attribute this growth to applying my Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil to my scalp daily and washing and deep conditioning with heat regularly.

What’s your regimen and staple hair products (including relaxers)?
My regimen is pretty simple and consists of the following: Shampoo my hair every week or every two weeks. I use a clarifying shampoo once a month. I deep condition every week or every two weeks after shampooing. Apply my leave in conditioners and seal my hair. I moisturize and seal my hair every day. I also oil my scalp daily. I get my hair relaxed/texlaxed between 12 to 14 weeks depending on how my hair feels during that particular stretch.

My shampoos are ORS Aloe Shampoo (to clarify), Beautiful Textures Tangle Taming Shampoo, Crème of Nature Shampoo Detangling Conditioning Shampoo. My hair likes any shampoo with sodium laureth sulfate as it is less harsh.

My Deep Conditioners are Wura’s Secret Moisturising Conditioner, ORS Replenishing Conditioner, Elasta QP DPR-11+ Deep Conditioner, Shea Moisture Castor Oil Deep Conditioner, Shea Moisture Shea Butter Deep Conditioner, Shea Moisture Yucca & Plantain Deep Conditioner.

My Leave-Ins are Cantu Shea Butter Leave in Conditioner, Shea Moisture Castor Oil Lotion

My Moisturisers are Wura’s Secret Hair Moisturiser or Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Style Milk

My scalp oil is Wura’s Secret Hair Growth Oil, this oil really stimulates hair growth and to seal my hair I use coconut oil which helps to keep my ends looking lovely and prevents them from breaking/splitting.

My relaxers are either ORS Olive Oil No-lye Relaxer or the Crème of Nature Nourishing No-lye Relaxer

Please share a few tips and tricks for retaining length?

It is crucial to care properly for the ends of your hair as it is only when they do not incur damage or break off that length is retained. So it is important to moisturize and seal your hair paying particular attention to the ends. It is also important when deep conditioning to focus on deep conditioning the ends as well. Also, protect the ends of your hair in a protective style.

As long as you can moisturize and seal your hair daily, apply a scalp oil for those with dry scalps and to aid growth (optional), wash and deep condition your hair often and wear protective hair styles you should be able to retain length.

How do you wear your hair to work or formal occasions?

My go to styles to work is something simple and out of my face that will stay put. So I usually opt for a very simple bun however on days when I want to look extra fancy or when I have more time to spend on styling my hair before work I will opt for a fuller bun. For formal occasions I like to have a bun with some hair pinned back in the form of a side sweep or an elegant updo or sometimes I might be lazy and just wear a bun. I have also started using clip in extensions on days where I want a different look.

Do you have any foreign ancestry in your family?

Not that I know of

Where can one find and follow u on the web?

Blog –

Instagram - @wurassecrethair

Twitter - @wurassecrethair

Facebook –

New cut
Three months after cut!

Her hair is so gorgeous and healthy too! Hopefully you got some good tips from this feature!