Wednesday, 28 August 2013

Hair Crush Features: Mode of Studio of Mode!

Mode


Hey peeps!

I am introducing my second hair crush today and her name is Mode. (Pronounced mo-day). She is so pretty and UBER-TALENTED. I found her when I saw one of her works on another blog-it was one of her paintings impressed on an iphone 5 case and I went straight to her blog to learn some more. It was indeed eye candy for me and I just couldn't help stalking her blog for days, admiring her paintings, writings and photographs. I found out she has had exhibitions in San Francisco, California and Lagos. This lady is sizzling y'all and if you don't believe it, check out her blog here and see for yourself lol.

Oh, before I forget, she's a natural too. This was just a bonus for me and I contacted her and she thankfully agreed to be featured on Fola's Oasis.



- Please introduce yourself! What do you do?

My name is Modé and I’m an artist. I write, paint and take photographs.




- Why did u decide to go or stay natural, and how long have you been natural for?

I did the big chop summer of 2009. The reason I cut my hair was because my hair broke due to relaxers, then I thought what was the point of putting relaxers that eventually break my hair. It was a vicious psychological cycle that needed to be stopped.


- What’s your hair type, your regimen and staple hair products?

 I don’t know about hair types, but I can say my hair is very fine and delicate. I use A’Kin hair products. I wash my hair once a week and deep condition once every two weeks.




- Please share a few tips and tricks for retaining length?

Protective styling has really helped retain my hair. Also pH balanced hair products were vital to my hair being healthy.



- What reactions did u get when u first went natural and/or what reactions do u get now?

Mixed reactions. But a lot of the times there are bad. People telling me to relax my hair or put it in a weave. It hurts and I get irritated but I keep moving.


- How do you wear your hair to work or formal occasions?

I do a lot of flat twists.


- What’s the best thing about going natural and what advice do you have for other wanna-be naturals out there?

 It’s freeing. And I’m learning to feel beautiful as my complete and natural self. I’ve always struggled with my hair psychologically, so becoming natural is really helping me confront the typical ideals of beauty and how that perception should be altered. I’ve learnt so much about myself and others being natural. You need patience. Because I think the main reason why a lot of people don’t want to go natural is because they fear of not being as pretty as they were with straight hair. Also they are also under the wrong idea that it’s harder to deal with than relaxed hair and that’s not the case.




- Where can one find and follow u on the web?

www.studioofmode.tumblr.com




PS: You may find and order many more of her works on her blog, (she ships internationally as well) and her works are exhibited at Terra Kulture and Cafe Tranche by Araba in Lagos.
Hope you are having a blessed week peeps!

Laterz
xoxo

Tuesday, 27 August 2013

Bringing it to the front- Hair Crush features: Hadassah Agbaps

Hey!
Yea this is not a new post or feature. But I decided to post my hair crush features on the top page AS WELL AS the main blog post sections, so I therefore brought my feature on Hadassah to the front. I have an interesting hair crush feature for you tomorrow so stay tuned! And if you are seeing this for the first time, enjoy!  : -)

 

Hair crush features

HADASSAH AGBAPS






Hey guys!

I'd love to introduce my very first hair crush on Fola's Oasis! She's a fellow blogger and creator of Nappy Girl products. Based in the Northern part of Nigeria, she has become an expert in my opinion at handling her natural hair. Enjoy!


- Please introduce yourself! What do you do?

 My name is Hadassah Agbaps. I’m a Nigerian natural hair blogger and a microbiologist.


- Why did you decide to go or stay natural, and how long have you been natural for?

 I’ve been natural all my life and I decided to stay natural because I was so used to caring for my hair in its natural state, loved the volume and the coils that I didn’t see any need to change its texture. I really loved the popping coils when my hair was wet! I also had (still have) a fear of chemical relaxers. I had observed the hair of family and friends through the different stages of being relaxed and I didn’t think the awful smell, grimace from burnt scalps, loss of volume, length, color and overall loss of liveliness to the hair was worth it in the long run.


- What’s your hair type, your regimen and staple hair products?

My hair type is a mixture of 4b and 4c. I’ve noticed a slight change in texture over the years. My predominantly 4c hair is now predominantly 4b. Weird, right? I’d like to attribute it to better health and more definition. My staple products are:

Shampoo: Aussie Moist shampoo for clarifying, Dudu Osun black soap for most wash days.

Conditioners: VO5 Conditioners for cowashing, Organics Root Stimulator Replenishing Conditioner.

Leave in Conditioners: I’ve tried several leave in conditioners and currently, I’m using Cantu Shea Butter repair leave in conditioner.

Sealants: NappyGirl UberMoist Pudding. It’s a blend of yummy butters, essential oils and aloe vera I make. Great sealant, great styler, longer moisture retention.

Gel: Aloe vera gel or Ecostyler.

My regimen is cowash once a week for three weeks and shampoo with either Aussie or African black soap depending on how my scalp and hair feels. If it feels gunky (product buildup), I’d use Aussie, if not I’d use black soap. Remoisturise and seal every 2 days, deep conditioning and protein treatment once a month. My regimen is very flexible depending on what my hair needs.








-  Please share a few tips and tricks for retaining length?
Moisture is key to maintaining elasticity (less breakage) of your hair, so spritzing and sealing especially the ends are important to length retention. When combing or styling your hair, do it as carefully as possible to reduce breakage. To prevent hairline breakage, always sleep with a satin scarf (the kind without elastic bands or if it does have, pull it down to the middle of your forehead) in addition to proper moisturizing and gentle styling.
-   What reactions did you get when you first went natural and/or what reactions do you get now?
I’ve always been natural so most of my friends and family are pretty used to it. I got pressured to relax it while I was growing up because some people felt natural hair was for kids alone….and that reason wasn’t enough to sway me because I was relaxed with my hair. When people see me for the first time with my afro out, they usually think it’s a wig or something and if they live with me, they can’t believe the versatility and just attribute it to having good hair. I braid, weave, fix a weavon, flat iron and do basically everything relaxed hair can do and more. The mindset of most Nigerian women is that they don’t believe with the right care, they can have good hair too but it’s changing…slightly. My hardest time was during the advent of expensive lace wigs and weaves. I was pressured to get one to belong but after seeing the unhealthy way it was fixed (the glue was a turnoff), I didn’t think it was worth sacrificing my hairline for. The weaves were okay as long as it wasn’t tight and my hair had breathing space. The back to back weave routine can really damage the hair…and unfortunately, most hair stylists wouldn’t tell you that!


- How do you wear your hair to work or formal occasions?
For work, my hairstyle depends on how conservative the office is. If it’s really conservative, my go to style is different variations of a bun, fingercoils and minitwists/outs ( because for me, mini twistouts stay defined for longer)! If the office is more relaxed, I’d wear a half mast afro, chunkier twistouts, frohawks and when I feel like it, a wash and go. I know a lot of new naturals will be dying to rock crazy natural hairstyles…leave it for weekends. My tip is, if you want a unique hairstyle that is neat and formal, you can’t go wrong with bridal natural hairstyles.







-    What’s the best thing about going natural and what advice do you have for other wanna-be naturals out there?
The best thing about being natural for me is the bouncy coils and fullness of my hair. Whenever I decide to take it straight, it’s shinier, darker and fuller than most relaxed hair I’ve come across without loading it up with grease and oils. Also, personally, the limp look of wet relaxed hair doesn’t do it for me. I do not hate, just saying what I think. Afterall my best buddy in the world, my sister is relaxed. Some people feel that natural hair takes work but any maintenance for hair or skin or weight is work.

If you want to go natural because it’s a trend, it’s all good but even then, you still have to put in time to care for your hair to rock that trend. If you want to go natural because you feel it’s a healthier option for your hair, my advice is delete all you know about haircare and start over with a different regimen and products. Unlike days back, there are more resources to GUIDE you. I’m still learning everyday.

Also, it’s important to get to KNOW, WORK WITH AND LOVE YOUR TEXTURE!


- Where can one find and follow you on the web?
 You can find me on my blog:    nappilynigeriangirl.blogspot.com,

Twitter @nappilynigerian

Instagram @nappilynigeriangirl and

Google+ +HadassahAgbaps.



Thanks again for this feature and I’m looking forward to reading about your journey!






                                                                                                      I like her Wash and go

Thai Chicken Curry Sauce




Hi!

Two days ago I made a lovely meal- thai chicken curry sauce. Now I have recently decided to make a "special" dish every month, to boost my culinary skills and also to break out of that "box" that many Nigerian ladies put themselves into when it comes to cooking. Now, so many condiments are available and affordable in this part of the world, so nothing stops us from making a great dish every now and then! I tried to check online for recipes for this dish and I saw so many different variations. I decided to mix and match and I came up with my own variation. So why not share it with my readers? I got help mostly from www.allrecipes.com and www.loveifeyinwa.com.


What you need:

Chicken (Now as you can see I used basic chicken pieces but boneless chicken breasts cut into smaller pieces are the best)
Sweet potatoes (2 cups of diced potatoes would do)
Bell peppers and scotch bonnets
Medium to hot curry powder (4 tbsp)
Cayenne pepper/dried pepper (3 tbsp)
Salt to taste
One stock cube (I used Knorr)
Coconut milk (I used three-quarters of a 400ml tin)
Coconut oil
One medium sized onion
One clove of garlic


Initial preparation:

Wash the chicken properly and then in a bowl, add all the spices except the stock cube. Also add 6 tbsp of coconut oil. Mix properly making sure the chicken is covered in the mixture. Cover this bowl and refrigerate for at least 2 hours.

Raw chicken covered in spices and oil

Peel and dice the sweet potatoes to make 2 cups. They should be about 3cm thick all over. Sadly I could only get less than a cup for this dish because I bought bad potatoes and I could only salvage what I could!

Dice the peppers and scotch bonnets, blend this in a blender for just a few minutes and set it aside.

That's all I used


Chop the onions and garlic finely.

Actual preparation:

Add 5 tbsp of coconut oil in a pot and after a minute of medium heat, add the onions and garlic. Stir for another minute. Add the blended peppers and stir for about 3 minutes.

It should  look something like this!

Next I added the sweet potatoes and left the pot to simmer for 3 minutes. Afterwards, I added the chicken and the whole mix with half a cup of water. The mix would likely have solidified a little, so you would have to scrape this into the pot. Stir and leave to cook at medium heat for 6 minutes.







Then you can now add the coconut milk. Also add the stock cube and more salt if you wish. Leave to simmer for another 6 minutes till the chicken is as soft as you like.

And you are done!  I made some basmati rice to go with it. My friend and Ifeyinwa also like this sauce with flat bread.







Laterz!!

xoxo

Sunday, 25 August 2013

Top 4 must-have natural oils for natural and relaxed hair

Source: http://blackgirllonghair.com







Heeeyyloooo!

It's been what, 5 days since my last post and even though it hasn't been that long, I have sorta missed connecting with you all. It's been a busy week for me and all I can say is I am thankful that I have a weave installed because it has really cut down my styling and maintenance time and I really need all the time I can get! But you know, I actually miss my natural coils. And as much as I am enjoying my pixie cut weave and the convenience, I am also looking forward to working with my natural hair soon. Also I have not been moisturizing my hair while in the weave-very bad I know. But I am thinking of a very cool way by which I can take out the cornrows, wash, condition and moisturize my hair, with minimal breakage. I will def share that with you.

So enough ranting, on to my post of the day. This is NOT gonna be a super-lengthy detailed post, this natural oil issue is even something many of you know in your subconscious and I don't think it's necessary to go into details about the chemical compositions of the oils-the natural hair veterans reading this know of the basic benefits of natural oils and have tried them, but I suppose this post is my way of condensing and summarizing all the info out there. Please feel free to do your own research if you like.

I asked myself, if I were to do a survey on best natural oils for the hair, what would be the top 3 oils? I then took some time to browse the internet and I came up with 4. The truth is that we only need the essentials for our hair, and if we can have a few oils that are super-potent, then the better for us. My stance here is that, if you need to start a regimen or revise your regimen, start with these oils. Even just any 2 out of the list would suffice. These oils have great properties, and any others might not make a big difference in your hair. However, we must bear in mind that different strokes suit different folks and you must go for what works best for you.

So here they are: OLIVE OIL, AVOCADO OIL, COCONUT OIL, CASTOR OIL.

A bit of detail for you below:

Olive oil


A light oil that also penetrates the hair shaft. Main benefits include sealing, reducing split ends, strengthening hair from the inside out, and conditioning. Great as a pre-poo as well. Personally I HEART and absolutely cherish this oil. It's actually my favourite! It transforms my dry strands almost immediately. 


Avocado Oil





It also penetrates the hair shaft, is comprised of beneficial nutrients such as vitamin A, E and D, protein, copper, magnesium, iron, folic acid, and amino acids. All these nutrients are vital for hair growth and health; it also conditions the hair and helps with moisture retention.  I am yet to get this oil but it's my next buy! I have read so much about this oil so when it came up as top 4 in my research I wasn't surprised at all. Another way of getting the benefits from this oil is to use the flesh from the avocado fruit as a DC (deep conditioning) or DC component.



Coconut Oil


I am sure that many of you would have flipped if this oil did not make the list! Of course coconut oil is just awesome. I particularly love the fact that its got a composition so close to that of the natural oils in our hair (the closest is jojoba oil) and also because it's got antibacterial and anti-fungal properties. So it repairs the hair shaft and is great for preventing dandruff too!



Castor Oil


The first three oils on the list penetrate the hair shaft. Castor oil does not, it serves as a sealant, that is protecting what's already in the hair shaft. This is very beneficial for the hair. It is also a very heavy oil that helps control frizz, conditions splendidly, gives the hair resilience and thickness.


So there you go! You can't go wrong with these oils. 3 other very good oils that made the bottom half of top 6 best natural oils for hair are: Jojoba Oil, Argan Oil and Grapeseed oil. I have jojoba oil and I love it so much. My personal top three faves are olive oil, jojoba oil and castor oil.


What are your own tried and true natural oils?

xoxo

Tuesday, 20 August 2013

How to prevent bumps or a rash after waxing/shaving

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I found this on www.livestrong.com some days ago and decided to share it with ya'all. Whatever your method of hair removal, be it waxing, shaving, hair removal creams, this info is useful because the whole idea is having smooth, hairless, beautiful skin isn't it? So we have to do what we can to ensure no bumps or rash enter the picture at the end of the day. I usually used hair removal creams (good old Veets) and sometimes followed it with a quick brief shave to get rid of any stubborn hairs. I recently have decided to start waxing more often and I am certainly gonna use these tips below:


Waxing is many women's hair removal method of choice, but the occasional breakout after waxing is enough to send some women in search of another way to remove hair. Breakouts can occur after waxing because of bacteria, inflammation and irritation, but you can take steps to prevent the problem both before and after your waxing treatment. Whether you're having your eyebrows, lip or another part of your body done, proper care and treatment can prevent a nasty breakout after waxing.


 Step 1

Exfoliate your skin with an exfoliating scrub before you have the waxing done. This will remove any dead skin cells, dirt and oil which may otherwise be forced into your pores with the application of wax. It also helps ensure a smooth result. If you don't have an exfoliating scrub, make one yourself by mixing enough sugar and water to form a paste and massaging it into your skin.

FO: This is a great idea. I exfoliate with my go-to apricot scrub every now and then anyways but not as often as I should. I have realized how as I have grown older, my skin needs more frequent exfoliation, which is expected.



Step 2

Ensure that the salon you are going to for the waxing treatment uses fresh utensils for each waxing appointment. Bacteria left on the materials and wax from other patrons could set you up for breakouts. If you are waxing by yourself at home, sterilize all of your utensils, including the spatula and wax strips before applying them to your skin.


FO: Well of course! I have only gotten my eyebrows waxed at my former spa by a lady I trust. Another great place to get safe, hygienic waxing done is another spa at Lagos, Bayou Spa at IPM Avenue, Alausa, Ikeja. (018041299).

Step 3

Apply an astringent to the area immediately after waxing. Witch hazel is a good, natural astringent and can help calm the inflammation that occurs after waxing, says the website for Associate Skin Care Professionals. Just douse a cotton ball with the product, and lightly dab it on the freshly waxed area to keep it clean and cooled. 





FO: I should try this too with my Body Shop Tea Tree Skin Clearing toner. It's got witch hazel so that would do.




Step 4

Use a hydrocortisone cream as soon as you see bumps forming. What you think is acne may actually be ingrown hairs or small irritation bumps. Paradi Mirmirani, MD, a dermatologist for Kaiser Permanente in Vallejo, California, suggest smoothing a hydrocortison cream on the area to reduce irritation and stop any itch that may be occurring. 



FO: When I read this I actually smiled because this is something I have been doing for a while now. I know hydrocortisone helps with bumps and itching and I apply a good one like Visita Plus right after shaving.

Step 5

Avoid touching the area with your fingers. While you may be eager to feel the results by running your fingers over the area, you may be transferring bacteria to the sensitive area, which will serve to cause even more breaking out. Keep your hands away, and look in the mirror if you want to see the difference.

 
FO: I rarely make this mistake anyway but it's a very sensible tip!


So there you have it! I am certain you can get even smoother skin on your legs, arms, brows and WHEREVER if you try these tips!

Thanks livestrong.com! : -)

xoxo

Saturday, 17 August 2013

DIY Denim accessories

Hello!

In one of my posts I wrote about how I just love denim and always will, and how I made a few accessories for myself from an old pair of jeans.

Well here it is. The picture doesn't show the bangle but I took a picture of that plus a closer view of the earrings in the next picture.










I just got into a denim frenzy, whipped out my tool kit and within an hour I was done making a a pair of earrings, a wrapped bangle and a headband.

I only needed: Scissors, glue, a wide bangle, stud earrings and an old pair of jeans.



I made the headband too short though-cos I did not properly consider the extra length needed to tie a nice bow at the top. The bangle had a frayed distressed denim look which was what I wanted anyway. The earrings could be made from simple button covers like this one:

Check youtube vids for how to use cover buttons-it's easy and faster! Available at craft stores


I used old earrings because these were much bigger than the usual button covers available in stores and I wanted something big.

What I did was really simple:
Earrings: I cut a square of denim with about a centimetre of excess material around the earring once I placed the earring in the middle of the square, with the post side facing up. You want to make allowance for the earring post at the back of the earring. It's usually better to make tiny snips (about 8 snips) around the outer edges of the square, to make folding easier. Then I applied glue around the outside perimeter of the earring and the material outside the circle and I folded the material over firmly, making sure you smooth out the edges so that you have a perfect circle.
Tip: Because the earring post was not in the middle, I pulled it off and used glue to re-position it in the middle. This way I am leaving enough allowance all round the earring for the denim to fold over.

Bangle: I cut out a strip of denim about 4 .5cm wide and long enough to cover the bangle. Then after applying glue on the bangle surface and a little on the reverse side of the denim strip, I wrapped it around the bangle in a diagonal direction. You should try to make this neat and equally spaced with maybe half a centimetre of overlaps. I finished off the end with more glue.

Headband: The easiest part. I just cut out a strip and that was it. I did not mind the frayed edges at all.


I wore all three to work on a Friday with the yellow tank top and jeans. Didn't look bad :- )



Wednesday, 14 August 2013

$515 on a block of 5 knives? Yay or nay.

Hello!

So my friend and I were driving by and we decided to make a quick stop at a household and interior decor store called Adam and Eve, located at GRA, Ikeja Lagos. This store has been around for ages and I thought "why not?". Boy, did I have a lot to feast my eyes on. I have always absolutely adored interior decor and trust me, Adam and Eve is definitely eye candy for just about anyone who's got eyes! They have just about everything you need for every room in your home. I saw a very pretty circular bed, awesome plush rugs, antique-inspired mirrors, state-of-the-art kitchen utensils, awesome dinnerware.....

OK backtrack a lil bit to state-of-the-art utensils. Here's what I found:




Pretty huh? These Bugatti stainless steel, block knives come in a sturdy yet classy transparent case with a coloured base to match your kitchen colour-theme. I wanted it. Until I saw the price tag:






Yep. That's about $515. For now I'd go for 6 or even 7 pairs of shoes with that amount of cash thank you very much!

But there were some really cool stuff in there. And great presentation too. Here are 2 sets of dinnerware I found. It could be yours for only half a million naira or $3125! And if you want a Versace dinner set, just double that price! : -)







And then some interesting life art-decor:



Me likey. Zooming in:



I could have sworn those snacks and biscuits were real! I literally had to squeeze the donut begin my fingers at the salesman's permission and it was actually even soft. But not very soft; plus the salesman insisted they weren't real and I decided to believe him lol.

Well that was how my evening went that Saturday.

Hope you had fun last weekend.

xoxo

Monday, 12 August 2013

Pixie cuts and not-so-smokey eyes



 Hello!

I have always LOVED pixie cuts! I remember missing the look many many months ago, when I was still about 15 pounds heavier and when my face was still chubbier, and I did not wanna get the weave installed yet because I feel pixie cuts look much better on a slimmer face. I'm definitely slimmer now and I decided to try this look and I really like it! I am so sure pixie cuts will come back in vogue now in Lagos, what with Rihanna, and now Beyonce rocking the look. I havent done a curly pixie look before; I actually saw the look on my stylist a few months ago and I just knew I would get mine done soon.

I have also noticed that I am beginning to prefer short hairstyles as opposed to long ones- could it be because of my big chop? Did any of you experience this change when you were still rocking a TWA? I am sure it is just a phase-I really like long hair, but lately I just don't care too much for it when it comes to weaves. Case in point, I already have a hairstyle in mind for my next weave and you guessed it, it's a short look.




In my last post I mentioned how the model who modeled those pretty tees inspired the look I wore to a wedding. Well.......I do not think I came close to that look but I tried! I have to give it another go very soon. I was so in love with the smokey-eyed look and now I realize it's a very bold look. I mean, look how far I still have to go:






Lol, I don't even know what I am missing but I am definitely missing something! I would appreciate your advice on how to achieve the perfect smokey-eye look cos when it comes to make up, I am FAR from perfect :- )

I used:
Eyes: Sleek Storm eyeshadow palette in black (of course), pink and light pink, Mac pencil in black, Ardell strip lashes, no mascara though
Brows: Mac pencil in black and brown
Lips: Cheapie lip liners in red (to brighten my dark lips) and then pink, Primark lipstick in pink (yes Primark,not too bad though packaging is a mess!), Sleek purity 606 Wonderlast clear lip gloss
Face: MaryKay medium coverage foundation in Bronze 500, Natural Collections concealer, Sleek Face Form contouring palette in medium, cheapie blush called "Blush On"-01Flushed

#sigh........you need not say it, I have a lot of better quality makeup to invest in and I had better get started asap!


Laterz
xoxo

Sunday, 11 August 2013

Tees and prints-Jessalin Beutler

1

I only recently discovered this designer-Jessica Beutler. Her speciality is hand-painted apparel and her clothes just speak ease, comfort, art and style. I saw the tee shown above and I delved into it immediately and then discovered some more:


2

3

4

I like how fitted and catchy they are, and how the model teamed up the tees with bright colours.


5

6
Jessalin Beutler also designs scarves as can be seen; a little pricey though, but pretty all the same. Who says one can't wear a scarf over a tee?


7

This last one is one of my faves. It's just so pretty!

Her tees go for less than $50. I bet that's not too pocket-friendly for "just a teeshirt" but c'est la vie. And I'm loving the model's pixie cut so much; and the smokey-eye make up too. Her make-up inspired my look to a wedding I went for yesterday. I will do a post on that next.

Find her tees (female and male) and paintings on http://www.jessalinbeutler.com and  http://www.jessalinbeutler.com/original-art/.


My faves are 2, 5 and 7. Which one is yours?

Cheers
xoxo

Friday, 9 August 2013

Ayo Jay





I am a big supporter of young talent. I heard about Ayo Jay from a friend and then listened to "Your Number" on his phone. Of course I was like "Who is this one now", but when I was done listening, I knew without a doubt that Ayo Jay would likely go places. And with the likes of Wizkid and Burna Boy churning out smoking hot jams often, it's obvious the Nigerian market and beyond just embraces and supports younger musicians. But talent has nothing to do with age anyway. I wish Ayo Jay all the best and I'm looking forward to some more great music from him.

Here's his interview below if you wanna know more about Ayo Jay:


 


And a snippet from www.onenationgroup.com:

"Ayo Jay is about to change the rules of the game.
He has been in the studio recording with J-Sleek, E Kelly, Sarz, Tee Y Mix and many more producers.
He just shot the video for his new single, "Your Number". The video will be out in a few weeks.His brand new single, "Your Number" is already receiving amazing reviews. Expect a lot of material from Ayo Jay before the year runs out.

Before that we present to you the first episode from a series of short clips introducing Ayo Jay.




For enquiries :
+2347066247130
asa.asika@onenationgroup.com  "
What do you think?
 xoxo

Word!: Less of me....

"....I was just plain tired of praying about the same thing again and again, day after day! So I decided to stop praying about ME, and focus on someone else."



I am now introducing a new series to Fola's Oasis...."Word!". I realized that I had better use my blog as a medium to share some of my thoughts, some lessons learned and truths that have kept me going on all these years. I hope this blesses at least someone :-)

So "Less of Me" is just a title I decided to put to something I decided to do some months ago. I have reached a point in my life where there are crossroads, major decisions to be made, several uncertainties and even roadblocks. Much earlier this year I made a very tough but vital decision to quit my job of almost 3 years. It was a highly unfulfilling job, I was uber-stressed, there was no opportunity for growth, I was paid poorly, I had no time to rest, go to church, go anywhere, the list was endless. I went through several stages of unhappiness and restlessness about my job-but I was afraid to quit because of the good old fear of the unknown. After a lot of praying, and saving, I decided to just DO IT. I quit, with absolutely no clue as to what to do next. 

Now, I had been trying to get another job for so long and it seemed like it wasn't gonna happen. I was not happy, because I felt like I was very far away from where I was supposed to be. I decided to make the best of the situation. I was not gonna stay all locked up wondering what to do. I decided to embark on a fitness and weight loss journey (I had become overweight suddenly lol), and I committed myself to that- my readers would know! lol. I also quickly resumed activities in the church and just absorbed being in God's presence whenever I could. 

Then we had a prayer session in church, where we fast and pray once a month. So, I was praying in my living room and I believe that was where things changed. But that was just the beginning. Shortly after, I realized that I could not continue to pray about something if I was SURE that issue was already settled. Also, to be honest with y'all, I was just plain tired of praying about the same thing again and again, day after day! So I decided to stop praying about ME, and focus on someone else. And that was where my own lil intercessory sessions started. It was weird at first, but later I got used to it. I'd wake up and just take the focus away from ME and pray about friends, family and others.

A month after, I got a part-time job at a consulting firm! The part-time aspect was exactly what I wanted. And so far, it's looking good. I am also trying to see if I can set up a very small-scale catering business since I have some extra time on my hands now. I feel much more relaxed and I am certain this is just the beginning for me.

I guess the point I am trying to make here is: once you have prayed, and you are sure, let go! Don't keep bugging the issue. Another main point: focus less on yourself. I know God expects every Christian to be his brother's keeper. We need to do more of praying for others, helping others, looking out for others. See if He won't sort your own stuff out soon enough :-)

And that's how I moved from point A to B. By doing a little less of me. :-)

Laterz!!!

Tuesday, 6 August 2013

Solange: Not just that hair.

Source: Youtube via urbanbushbabes.com


All I gotta say is thank you Nikisha of urbanbushbabes.com for posting this vid. I am usually an objective person, but I must confess that I got all caught up (just like many other people I'm sure!) in the "overshadowing effect" a celebrity could have on another. What I mean is, until I watched this performance, I never really wondered about Solange's MUSIC. All I had observed was her relation to Beyonce (of course), her personal style and love for prints, the constant bashing she gets from Joan Rivers in the Fashion Police show (mostly undeserved in my opinion, but hey, it's Joan Rivers! lol) and of course, her lovely natural hair. But her music, no. I saw one or two vids in the past and I just wasn't paying too much attention.

But I saw this video, actually LISTENED to her and thought, oh-my-I-like-Solange! I love this song, I like a few of her other songs too. I went to her website too, and I immediately decided to do a post on her. If you like soul, deep, sassy lyrics and attitude, you'd like her. I just feel she does not get as much credit as she deserves and she deserves some more. Like Nikisha, I really dig this song, and I need to lay my hands on her album asap. :-)

Well ya'all know I'm def gonna say something about her hair!




TWA
Marley twists!



Images source: www.google.com/images


She sometimes wears weaves, yes, but I can't help but admire her self-confidence and decision to rock her natural hair, as a celebrity. Watching the video, I thought, "Whoa I'm not even sure I have this kinda confidence! If I was a famous singer I'm not sure I could pull this off ".  And even her signature style of ankara prints, and other prints - one has to give it to her for embracing and showcasing ethnic and tribal fashion with a modern twist. And then I remembered a conversation I had lately with my good friend and natural hair lover Shyne, and he said something in response to me saying that I believe that the next 5 to 7 years will reveal a lot more classy women going natural and rocking it boldly too, particularly in this part of the world where ladies are really into what's trending and classy. But Shyne said, "Fola, not until the likes of Beyonce and Nikki Minaj rock natural hair, will many more ladies around the world begin to embrace theirs".

My comment? "TRUE. VERY TRUE."



What do YOU think?

Laterz
xoxo