Wednesday, 1 January 2014

2014-Let's begin!



2013 was a great year for me. I got my Masters certificate, got a new job, ventured into a new business (still on it), ended a meaningless relationship, made some good friends, went on a relaxing trip, resumed work/help at my church, grew spiritually, started a weight loss journey, succeeded in achieving my target weight, cut my hair and started growing healthier, beautiful hair, started a healthier lifestyle journey, started this blog!

It’s funny-I did not realize the list was even that long until I started typing. I suppose that’s why “counting your blessings” isn’t a cliché. You really get to realize how blessed you are when you take the time to reflect on the positives. I cannot say it loudly enough- we excel when we focus on the positives. Our state of mind at every point in time is what propels us to point B. Like T.D Jakes said, it’s not about the altitude, but the attitude. Last year I realized that our attitude to life is key. I experienced a couple of disappointments- enough to make anyone depressed for weeks. But I always fought any negative feelings or self-pity. I made a conscious effort to ignore feelings of insecurity, low self worth, and low self esteem. My attitude helped me seek and look for the right kind of help or support I needed. One way or the other, I always looked back and thanked God for the wisdom to fight negative thoughts. I tell you, negativity breeds its kind. My favorite quote for 2013 still remains: Man does not attract what he wants, but what he is.

The Bible is such an awesome book. Many people shy away from its teachings due to their experiences-mostly and ironically, crappy experiences, judgmental reasoning and hypocrisy shown to them by other Christians- and they see this book as a big wielding stick of judgment, punishment, rigidity and identity-robbery. I have seen for myself though, that the Bible is just the opposite. This book has helped me appreciate and enjoy my own personal identity-helped me cherish my quirks and understand my flaws and how to improve, so I can be better. The book has shown me what true forgiveness means, has shown me how to look at everyone different, how to channel my life in a way that brings joy to God, myself and those around me, has shown me how to be ME.

In 2013 I learnt that:

-You cannot please everyone. Everyone has hang-ups; these hang-ups often times cloak their ability to appreciate the good stuff.
-Life is short. Run away from procrastination.
-Giving is fun. It really is.
-It is wise to practice having a good heart and GENUINELY wishing others well. It isn’t that easy, but it is wise to do so.
-Good health is the coolest thing ever. Fitness rocks.
-We don’t date because of the reasons we think. The real reason why we date is to heal our childhood traumas. When you find that special one, work harder at sorting out your own issues so you don’t lose him/her. (I heard Malik Yoba say this on The Wendy Williams Show and I was like woooord!)
-There IS such a thing as working smart-as opposed to working hard.
-Sharing knowledge is so fulfilling. Blogging rocks!
-There is always light at the end of the tunnel-that’s why it’s called a tunnel. Tunnels are never close-ended.
-Man does not attract what he wants, but what he is.


Of course, many of these points are things I knew about prior to 2013; it’s just that I was able to KNOW these truths for myself, in a more personal way.

So what I am tryna say is that, we can’t do it all by ourselves. We all need that support, that rock. Man has this vacuum inside him-that only God can fill TOTALLY. We will fall, we will make mistakes, we will REALLY mess things up, but He’s always there….ALWAYS.

OK so I leave you with an awesome song (not a Gospel praise-God-Halleluyah song in case that’s what you were expecting ;-) ), by the really cool British group- Rudimental, featuring Emeli Sande, titled “Free”.

I heart the song-if you listen to it you’d know why :- ) but please don’t take the line about the guy not being a “believer” as a contradiction- I think he would be even more FREE if he became one! I just like the song, the tempo, rhythm and the general “do-you” message it conveys.


HAPPY NEW YEAR!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!


Love,
Fola


13 comments :

  1. Such a beautiful and inspirational post, well done dear and have a Fab New Year, xx

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    1. Thanks hun! And happy new year "iyawo wa" lol xxx

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  2. You are very right, Counting your blessing is not a cliché. Sometimes we forget how blessed we are. Happy new year dear. Beautiful post.

    Belledazzy.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks Dazzy. Thanks so much for stopping by my blog! Contacting you about a style feature soon!

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    1. Aww thanks-you actually checked my blog :-) xxx

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  4. Happy New Year!!! Just found your blog and I'm loving it :)!

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    1. Wow thanks Cee! Happy new year! Ur comment made my day :-) checking out ur blog now!

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  5. Happy New Year!!! Just found your blog and I'm loving it :)!


    http://madamchiso.blogspot.com/

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  6. Its the second week/3rd week of the year but Happy blessed new year Fola!
    Indeed counting our blessings is the way to go

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    1. Happy new year darl! Thanks for your lovely comment.

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  7. Happy new year dear. Got ur mail. You can reach me on titilovesu@yahoo.com... Thanks a lot. *now dancing yahoozee + garala + alanta*

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    1. Lol Titi! all THREE dancesteps??! Lol. I will contact you soon. Thanks for stopping by!

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