Wednesday, 7 October 2015

I'm back!- Wedding planning tips and what to expect!

Hey! So I’m back after taking time to get prepare for my traditional wedding, and getting over the post-wedding stress and euphoria! I am pleased to say that my wedding was a success, and we all had a good time! I will sprinkle a few pics here all over the main post, but you may also check out more pics on my Instagram page and the #FWedsR hashtag.

So as a newlywed blogger, it only makes sense that I should do a couple of posts on wedding tips right? My first one is basically advice from my own viewpoint, based on my experiences and lessons learnt while planning this wedding. It took just 3 months to plan but I learnt so much!

Plan for unexpected expenses

I don’t need to stress the importance of a realistic budget- Mr. Man and I came up with an Excel sheet with all wedding items and estimates listed, which we updated weekly. It seemed quite formal initially but looking back I am thankful for that sheet, it really helped us manage cost wisely and efficiently.

But trust me, no matter how much has gone into planning the budget, there WILL always be expenses that would come up. Ours came up very close to the D-Day, and it was so annoying! Costs cropped up from the venue management’s lapses mostly, to some greedy people, it was just crazy. We had not made allowances for any unexpected costs so my advice is to leave out a very small percentage of your total budget for this!
Event Venue management
I am not the type to “snitch” but when something leaves little to be desired I will speak up. Not all event venue management is trained to be effective and I think we got the short end of the stick as regards this. I will skip the complaints section and go straight to QUESTIONS you should ask management before you make any payments!

1. Is there a refundable deposit and when will it be paid?

2. What deposits are vendors to pay?

3. What shelter has been made available for vendors on the event date?

4. What kind of security is available at the main gate?


Honestly, bad management can cause you a lot of heartache! Be careful with event venue management even if the price looks good. Also avoid using any of the staff as middle-man vendors for anything at all. Get your own stuff yourself. 
Follow your instincts
When it comes to choosing vendors, event venues etc, of course reputation, budget, logistics must come into play, but sometimes even your gut feeling should not be ignored- particularly if you are the “type” with strong instincts and a good sense of judgment. Still on the venue matter, I was skeptical about going with that venue but later caved in to other conflicting opinions and a little decrease in price. Now I wish I had gone with the venue my heart wanted, we would have ended up paying less in the long run and most likely would have had a better experience.

Be Firm!
This one is tough, particularly when family is involved, and you need to put your foot on the ground about things like number of invitees, but I believe the trick is to let them know EARLY and make them understand how important crowd control is to you, then give them time to give you a commitment they can stick to. Things like budget should also be kept strict- not easy too, but unless you have a lot of sponsors for your wedding, you would not regret sticking to your budget as much as you can! 
Your Wedding Planner
Go for a planner that is not only affordable but recommended by one or two other people. Now good wedding planners are getting really expensive nowadays I have to say. I think you just have to work on a balance between affordability and a well-organized event.

Manage vendors
Boy did some vendors give me a big headache! Remember when I made a post and mentioned how I was having second thoughts about “aso ebi” due to the stress involved? Well let’s just say some of my vendors almost made me cry over this. Lol. Please plan for delays- they are inevitable with Nigerian suppliers. If you are comfortable with it, lie about your wedding date and give them an earlier one. Pay deposits and not full amounts till delivery has been made. And stay calm as much as you can!

Be Organized!
This was not a chore for me because I am quite organized anyway. I had a notepad that I scribbled EVERYTHING in, and I mean everything. It really helped me keep things in focus. Your planner can’t do everything for you and you need to do a portion of your own planning and groundwork yourself unfortunately. 
Expect Disappointments….from those you don’t expect them from
I had heard this from countless brides and grooms and yes I experienced it myself! Some people tag it as jealousy, some tag it as unreliability, whatever it is, I experienced it. A few people I considered close to me started weirding me out for no sensible reason, some acted obliged to things or information I could not give them, some tried to be manipulative etc.

Well thankfully I never put anything solely in anyone’s hands and that is my advice for you as well. Expect some weirdness, don’t fret about it and just enjoy your new and beautiful life waiting ahead of you! As for the usual phrase you will hear “Don’t stress, delegate as much as you can”, well most people who give this advice are usually not even available to help anyway, but it’s great advice, and between your planner (if she is good and reliable #eyeroll) and close family, delegation is really helpful. But still have a back up arrangement when you can!

Hope you enjoyed this post!

Brides-to-be you want to bookmark this page trust me lol. Wives in the house can you relate to any of these tips? :)

18 comments :

  1. Awww you look so pretty...congrats love :)

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  2. interesting post. i will refer back to this whenever i'm preparing for mine. didn't know you got married. congrats Fola.x
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  3. Very informative post Fola! Thank you and congratulations once again!

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  4. Awww you look gorgeous. I really love the red/black matching traditional attire of you and your husband. Congratulations hun!
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  5. Beautiful Bride...Congratulations

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  6. congrats pretty. i wish you a happy marriage life.

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  7. Congratulations! Both look fantastic!

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  8. Awesome post.. you look beautiful fola congrats!

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  9. Congratulations again Fola, you look so beautiful

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  10. My dear I am so happy for you. Congratulations, you looked so stunning! I can relate to so many of the tips. Welcome back!!!

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  11. A blissful marital life dear.

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  12. Thank you guys: Adetutu, Tonkabelle, Louise, Sandra, GeorgeT, Deemako, Larisa, Crimson T, Temmy's Perception, T Notes, Bee. Thanks!

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  13. Newly wed! Awwwww!
    Congrats darling.
    May God bless ur new home.
    You look amazing btw! Loooveeee!

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  14. Awww, Congratulations Fola :) Love the colours of your Aso!!

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  15. Thanks for the wonderful tips. I might need them again one day. Lol!
    I love, love the pictures.

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  16. Nerline, as they say, "no knowledge is lost"! Thank you :)
    Tuke thank u i loved the colours too.
    Justporsh thank u! mwuah

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  17. Congratulations Fola lovely pictures.

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